Your aging parent is struggling at home. You think it might be time for them to consider a move to a retirement community, but you’re dreading having the conversation. Or maybe you’ve already broached the subject with them and gotten nowhere.
You’re not alone.
Every day we see families wrestling with these thorny discussions. Here are 5 common phrases used by seniors who are resistant to the idea of living in a retirement community. Maybe you’ve heard one or more of them already.
It’s hard to overcome this type of resistance. While you may be focused on your parent’s safety, they may be worried that leaving their current home will mean giving up their independence. They don’t recognize that a move to a retirement community may actually increase their independence and quality of life by freeing them from mundane tasks and giving them more chances to make social connections and pursue various leisure interests.
Sometimes the best approach is to simply make the initial suggestion and wait for “teachable moments” to present themselves. Maybe your parent has a fall but avoids serious injury. A close call like this may open their eyes to the benefits of having people around in case something similar were to happen again. You might use this opening to suggest visiting some retirement communities “just to get a sense of what they’re like”.
It’s also a good idea to highlight the benefits of retirement communities rather than simply focusing on your parent’s need for care and support. Freedom from housework. Restaurant-style meals. More time to focus on what’s important to them.
That said, even if you do all this, you may still have a hard time getting past your parent’s objections. That’s when involving a trustworthy third-party can be helpful. Someone who knows local retirement communities inside and out and has experience helping families navigate these type of prickly discussions.
If you’re considering retirement communities in the Ottawa area, we can fill this role. Sometimes, we can even offer our services at no charge to you. Call, text, or email us.
Join us April 28, 2023 for our workshop on having “the talk” with your aging parent.